I read an entire book yesterday. I read nearly every day, but I'm not sure I've ever read an entire book in half a day.
I couldn't put it down!
The weather was awesome and it's going to get cold here soon so I wanted to be outside, but instead I didn't leave the house. I had to finish this book!
As you are reading this blog on a personal growth site, you have probably read a book in a day before. I would imagine there are many different reasons many do so. As I look back a day later, for me there was one reason that I couldn't put it down. Sure, it was interesting material. Sure, it was a relatively easy read. Sure, it cozy sitting in the basement in my favorite chair with a blanket and tea on a cool morning - all those in themselves reasons to not get up.
What I realized, however, is that I was completely involved in this book for one simple reason: It gave me the answers I was looking for and needed at the time. It gave me hope, it gave me understanding and it gave me options to move on from the challenges I was facing at the time. It gave me clarity.
We have all had experiences like this - we're stuck or stagnant in some way and then all of a sudden - one person, one experience, one book, one speech, one seminar or one new perspective - broke us loose and we felt lighter. If we're wise enough to know it's happening at the time, we're grateful and appreciative for whatever did it - and if we didn't notice what happened, but we just felt better, that's OK too. The point is, we 'shifted'. And now we have new directions we can go in to solve the challenges we were facing.
So far, I have had the honor and privilege of being a student and teacher of Lyf for over 15 years and when I look back through the thousands of 'epiphanies' I have had and have helped clients, partners, associates, family and friends have - there is one common denominator that has helped shift each and every one of us: Clarity.
When we have clarity on something or someone, it gives us direction and the ability to move forward. It gives us options and the understanding necessary to take the next step with less uncertainty and less risk and less anxiety. It gives us confidence and reduces fear. It shines new light on what once was dark. Over the last 15 years, I have been fortunate enough to experience thousands of people shift, smile and take new action - often solely based on having new clarity on what was cloudy or fuzzy for them before.
This time for me, it was clarity on relationship attachment styles. In the book, 'Attached.' by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, we learn that all humans are attached to each other in one way or another and that we all have 1 of 3 distinct attachment styles. Whether we are already in a healthy relationship, in a struggling relationship or looking for an ideal relationship, understanding this principle can make a significant improvement in our lives together.
Personally, I learned why we act the way we do in our most meaningful relationships and what we can do to improve ourselves and the relationship itself while being more at peace with ourselves and each other. I gained clarity on a very fundamental biological part of me that was cloudy and fuzzy before and now I see options and feel lighter because of it.
What I was reminded of was to continue to seek clarity. And to always move forward.